by Pastor David Oyadomari

Question

Who am I becoming?

Reflection

Every habit, every relationship, and every choice is forming us into someone, and our world has a way of shaping us around success, speed, comparison, and control. In this vein, the currencies of meaning become money and power, and over time, we can slowly become more anxious, more divided, and more exhausted because we have been thrust into a world where the current belief system is in opposition to what our true selves desire, need, and want. We desire to know who we are becoming, but rarely do we stop, pause, and consider the outward controls that are forming our worldviews.

Jesus spoke about this kind of formation long before we had language for it. He invited people into a different way of living, one shaped not by money or power, but by trust, humility, love, and faithfulness. He didn’t just teach ideas; He offered a more fulfilling way of life.

In the Christian faith, a well-lived life isn’t about behaving better, believing harder, or earning God’s love. It’s about becoming a different kind of person, someone whose inner life is being healed and reshaped over time. This kind of formation doesn’t happen all at once or in a straight, linear path. Instead, it happens slowly, through practice, daily choices, and life shared with others.

We are not meant to become who we’re meant to be alone. Transformation happens best in community, where we are known, supported, and gently held accountable.  Community gives us encouragement in moments of growth, wisdom in moments of confusion, and strength in moments of struggle. It’s where we celebrate together when things are going well, and where we are carried when things are hard.

Questioning who we are becoming shifts our focus from outcomes that the world deems successful to a path of character growth and surrender that God is wanting us to follow and is part of His purpose. Being willing to hear, acknowledge, and internalize who we are becoming is not always easy, and that’s okay.  Formation begins when we are aware, pause long enough to notice what’s shaping us, and choose, together, a better way forward.

Jesus invites us into a life where love forms our instincts, truth shapes our thinking, and faith anchors us when the storms come. We may not live perfectly, but over time, with others walking alongside us, we become people who live differently and faithfully.

Takeaway

You are becoming someone every day, in your own personal, quiet way. Transformation begins not with trying harder, but with paying attention and choosing a better way. When you choose to be formed by the way of Jesus, you begin to grow into a person marked by love, peace, courage, and hope.